Ever since I was young I hated the feeling of failure. I avoided it like the plague.
But I also wanted to win. So much so, that when I started something I always needed to be the best. Sounds great on the surface. However, when you define success as the gold medal, first place, or the A+, you set yourself to fail and fail often. Knowing this caused me to avoid trying things.
Do you find yourself holding back on doing things because you fear failure? Do you have a bucket list or a wish list that never gets anything checked off? Do you avoid taking risks and really play full out because you might risk failing?
Welcome to the club. I was a member for more than 30 years.
If my story resonates with yours, it may be because you have a version of the belief “It’s better not to try, then try and fail.” Or maybe something like “You should only do things you know you can succeed at.” Or, “If it’s worth doing, then it’s worth winning.” I got ones like that from my Dad and my Grandpa.
In this video I share how you can change those beliefs and flip the notion of success and failure to help you start taking action, and living the life you really want. And who knows, maybe even check some of those bucket list items off the list.
I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes on failure:
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley
Go try that thing you’ve been avoiding, and reframe success as just taking the first step. Then the next step. Then the next step. Until you get the result your after. In this way, success is inevitable.
Make sure to celebrate those “failures” along the way!